So. Very. Tired.
Yesterday was Girl Scout night. I am pleased to report that based on the half hour or so I stayed in the room, the other girls are not being mean, so my husband will not have to go beat up a bunch of seven year olds. She didn’t interact while I was there, choosing instead to look over a toy catalog that a mom had brought in, no doubt dreaming of Christmas. I’m going to give it some time and see if she warms up. In fairness, the rest of the girls were kind of scattered, with some looking out a window, some doing the craft (making a construction paper flag for their troop), etc.
Wednesdays are tough anyway – we get home, play a little to unwind, do homework, get a snack, go to Scouts, and get home past her normal bedtime. She was yawning heavily by the end of the meeting. I have to leave before she goes to bed if I want to go to the Wednesday night knitting session. This means my husband gets to put her to bed alone, which she doesn’t like. Not her easiest day of the week. And I feel guilty because I’m ducking out. It’s to preserve my own sanity, but it comes at the expense of others’ happiness, which is a bad bargain.
So after going to bed super-tired last night, she had a dentist appointment this morning to have three cavities filled. We’ve issued new restrictions on sweets, which she’s accepted, so hopefully that’ll help. She only drinks water anyway, always eschewing juice and soft drinks in its favor. At any rate, this morning I got the unbridled joy of restraining my daughter’s arms and legs while the doctor tried to fill a particularly troublesome cavity. I’m not convinced the nitrous was doing any good at all. I asked her if it hurt, and she said it didn’t. Of course, after the fact she also said she was totally okay, when she was mouthing, “I aant ooo ggo ho!” during the procedure.
I dropped her off at school, then stopped by the Tajhma Teeter to get some chocolate chip pancakes off their breakfast bar to ease my suffering. Bad long-term solution, but this morning, I don’t give a crap.
I’m feeling very down because she’s still having behavior issues, and I’m betting that after going to bed tired and unhappy, then having her ordeal at the dentist this morning, she’s not going to have her best day ever. Then we’ll have OT after school, which, again, probably not the best session ever.
I’m kind of stumped as to what to do about her getting upset. Her teacher said there was no warning yesterday, she just went from 0 to 60 in a heartbeat. Twice. She went to her resource teacher’s room and calmed down, then wanted to come back. It’s good that she wanted to return. I wonder, though, what is she missing in the classroom during the time that she’s left her trailer and gone down the hall to another room? It’s very frustrating, and I’m at a loss.
I have pictures of a knitted hat and of my daughter in a Brownie vest to share, but my computer doesn’t have Photoshop back on it yet. It’s a process. Hopefully I’ll be back up to full speed in a week or so.
It’s just a lot of things all going kerflooey at the same time, and it makes me very weary. If I can get a good night’s sleep, I’m sure it’ll all seem better.
Jayne hats up for: NC, Estonia, and the UK. The signal is worldwide, baby! Go Estonian Browncoats!
*sigh*
I hear ya, sister.
I don’t have any real words of wisdom here, because this does seem like “one of those days” where everything just… happens. It just does.
You deserve pancakes.
*sigh*
I hear ya, sister.
I don’t have any real words of wisdom here, because this does seem like “one of those days” where everything just… happens. It just does.
You deserve pancakes.
I second the pancakes.
Have the considered having an aide in there for her, to see if he/she can pick up on what happens right when she explodes? Teachers are great, but they’re not omniscient. What may appear to be nothing may be something very subtle and hard for her to verbalize.
I second the pancakes.
Have the considered having an aide in there for her, to see if he/she can pick up on what happens right when she explodes? Teachers are great, but they’re not omniscient. What may appear to be nothing may be something very subtle and hard for her to verbalize.
Yeah, I was going to mention that but wasn’t sure if she did have an aide in there. I can imagine that maybe she (or you) would rather she learn to be independent, but if she’s having incidents when you’re really trying to model and practice good behavior, I wonder if it might help. (Getting an aide, of course, is not always cut-and-dry.)
Yeah, I was going to mention that but wasn’t sure if she did have an aide in there. I can imagine that maybe she (or you) would rather she learn to be independent, but if she’s having incidents when you’re really trying to model and practice good behavior, I wonder if it might help. (Getting an aide, of course, is not always cut-and-dry.)
I might have ordered the whiskey pancakes after that kind of morning.
I might have ordered the whiskey pancakes after that kind of morning.
*hugs* to you, lady.
Can you make any other night a knitting night?
*hugs* to you, lady.
Can you make any other night a knitting night?
You know, I wouldn’t worry about what she’s missing during class time. Teachers end up having to repeat themselves a lot in the classroom, so she’ll have the chance to catch up on whatever she misses when she needs the break.
I hate the way elementary school is set up. Middle schoolers and high schoolers get breaks between subjects to get up out of the chairs, have a little walk and settle into a new environment, but we expect the 5-10 year olds to sit in the same spot for hours on end. It’s ridiculous.
Our kids are being pulled out of their classes twice daily (three times on Tuesdays for Wes) for multiple reasons, and when Jacob started getting that change, his behavior improved by leaps and bounds. Does your school have any programs that might help her by giving her a subject in a new classroom each day? The change of pace during the day might help aleviate some of those meltdowns. Perhaps even being able to split up her class time so that she sits in on another classroom of the same grade for one subject? I have no clue how much contact you guys have with the school, and I also have no clue how Charlotte schools work, but here we have to stay on the administration to get things done for our kids. We have lucked out that the AGP teacher for us fights hard for her kids, so we haven’t had to duke it out with the school much thus far, but you might have to. If your school is anything like ours, the kids who *don’t* make the top scores are the most ignored, sadly.
AND, I know it’s hard to know that your “me time” is at the expense of your daughter’s happiness, but imagine how unhappy she’d be if you got worn to the bone and couldn’t take that time. Keep having your me time. That’s an order. 🙂
You know, I wouldn’t worry about what she’s missing during class time. Teachers end up having to repeat themselves a lot in the classroom, so she’ll have the chance to catch up on whatever she misses when she needs the break.
I hate the way elementary school is set up. Middle schoolers and high schoolers get breaks between subjects to get up out of the chairs, have a little walk and settle into a new environment, but we expect the 5-10 year olds to sit in the same spot for hours on end. It’s ridiculous.
Our kids are being pulled out of their classes twice daily (three times on Tuesdays for Wes) for multiple reasons, and when Jacob started getting that change, his behavior improved by leaps and bounds. Does your school have any programs that might help her by giving her a subject in a new classroom each day? The change of pace during the day might help aleviate some of those meltdowns. Perhaps even being able to split up her class time so that she sits in on another classroom of the same grade for one subject? I have no clue how much contact you guys have with the school, and I also have no clue how Charlotte schools work, but here we have to stay on the administration to get things done for our kids. We have lucked out that the AGP teacher for us fights hard for her kids, so we haven’t had to duke it out with the school much thus far, but you might have to. If your school is anything like ours, the kids who *don’t* make the top scores are the most ignored, sadly.
AND, I know it’s hard to know that your “me time” is at the expense of your daughter’s happiness, but imagine how unhappy she’d be if you got worn to the bone and couldn’t take that time. Keep having your me time. That’s an order. 🙂
T since it’s been happening more lately, have them send an inclusion Teacher in there (Not sure what they call them in your area but that’s our term) They can watch for a bit and see if they see any triggers. More than not there are triggers that the teacher hasn’t seen. I know that with 25-30 kids in my room I miss things. You try not to but with loads of kids in a small space…
Perhaps once she gets used to the changes it will calm down too. 🙂 They are good changes but heck most of us hate change and it’s harder on the lil folks. Once all the new things aren’t “new” things will chill out.
And while knitting night makes you feel a little guilty… think of it another way. It’s giving her and your hubby bonding time. Right now it may feel strange to her/them but soon it won’t and it will be ‘their’ time. 🙂
T since it’s been happening more lately, have them send an inclusion Teacher in there (Not sure what they call them in your area but that’s our term) They can watch for a bit and see if they see any triggers. More than not there are triggers that the teacher hasn’t seen. I know that with 25-30 kids in my room I miss things. You try not to but with loads of kids in a small space…
Perhaps once she gets used to the changes it will calm down too. 🙂 They are good changes but heck most of us hate change and it’s harder on the lil folks. Once all the new things aren’t “new” things will chill out.
And while knitting night makes you feel a little guilty… think of it another way. It’s giving her and your hubby bonding time. Right now it may feel strange to her/them but soon it won’t and it will be ‘their’ time. 🙂
Nothing I can say that someone else hasn’t already. You and yours are in my thoughts a lot. I was thinking the other day that y’all are heading into the roller-coaster years, which are hard enough on the rest of us but are likely to be even more challenging for you. I guess that means you’ll be a saint at the other end of this long dark tunnel! Hang in there, sweetie pea.
Nothing I can say that someone else hasn’t already. You and yours are in my thoughts a lot. I was thinking the other day that y’all are heading into the roller-coaster years, which are hard enough on the rest of us but are likely to be even more challenging for you. I guess that means you’ll be a saint at the other end of this long dark tunnel! Hang in there, sweetie pea.
Ouch. Sounds like a rough week all around 🙁 I hope this week is going better!
You totally deserve chocolate chip pancakes.
Ouch. Sounds like a rough week all around 🙁 I hope this week is going better!
You totally deserve chocolate chip pancakes.